Saturday, March 16, 2013

Lost Post: A Sister is a Girl's Best Friend

Just found this post in my drafts. Not sure why it never got posted. And even though it's not even close to her birthday, all the rest is true and could be said any day of the year.

I'd like to tell you about my sister. She is almost six years younger than me and is way cooler than me. She is beautiful and funny and smart and one of the best moms I know. She and I share memories that no one else can because of our shared childhood. We can share a look and know what the other is thinking. We can say "Dougherty" and giggle. We can talk about the funny things our parents do and laugh together. We can call each other with troubles and cry together. I know that no matter what, I can count on her to understand and love me anyway. And she knows the same about me. She is, and has always been, my best friend and I don't know what I'd do without her.

I love you, Ada. Happy Birthday.

Dilemma Update

Josh got into the charter school for 8th grade. And Adam is #1 on the 7th grade waiting list so he has a really, really good chance at getting in before school starts.

We are all a little nervous about the whole thing. But I had to reassure the boys...and myself...that I had been praying that they would get in if that was God's plan and that they wouldn't if it wasn't. So it must be the plan. Now I just have to prepare them...and me...for the changes to come.

Monday, March 11, 2013


Most families, I think, send their children to the elementary school closest to their homes. And there they stay until they move on to their district's middle school and then high school. No questions. No special considerations. But that's not how our children's education has worked out.

For the entirety of my children's education they have either been homeschooled, in my class, or just down the hall from me at our Christian school. But now the time has come for a change. Our private school goes through 8th grade this year, but we're not sure what grades we will have next year. Josh will be in 8th grade next year. Adam will be in 7th. Chances are, this is the last year that we will all spend our days in the same building.

Also, this year the boys are in the same class since their grades are combined. That's a challenge for them since it means that they are together all day every day. They wake up and fall asleep in the same room at home. And they spend all day in the same room at school. That's a lot of time for anyone to spend together. Most days are okay. But some days aren't so much.

Those two things lead to the conclusion that one or both of the boys needs to do something different for school next year..

And therein lies the dilemma. Where do they go from here? Both boys are really smart and get good grades. They are well-behaved...mostly. They could be successful anywhere they went.

So, here are our choices and the pros and cons of each.

A local charter academy
Pros: Science, technology, and math centered curriculum. Just what both boys like best.
         It's a relatively small school which is what they are used to.
         No tuition since it's a public charter school.
         Monday through Thursday schedule. Fridays off is a huge selling point for the boys...especially Josh.
Cons: Limited availability of spaces for new students.
          Secular curriculum.
          Limited extra-curriculars.
          Inconvenient location.
          Class size of 30, which seems really big to me.
          Only goes through 8th grade so Josh would have to move again the following year.

Public School
Pros: No tuition.
         Lots of opportunity to make new friends
Cons: Big schools.
          Big classes.
          Surrounded by worldly influences, teachers, and peers.
          Teaching that most likely will not match our spiritual beliefs.
          Josh would have to change schools two years in a row.

Another Christian School
Pros: Christian staff and curriculum.
         Small school and class sizes.
         Extremely convenient location and hours.
         Monday through Thursday schedule.
         Goes through high school, so the boys could stay there until they graduate.
         Arrty's alma mater.
Cons: Monthly tuition that would be very challenging to our budget.
          Uncertainty about open spaces for new students.

My ideal choice would be the Christian school. The boys don't have much of an opinion since they don't know anything beyond where they've been. (Actually, Josh's choice would be to not go to school at all and spend his days fishing. And Adam is fine anywhere as long as there's not a lot of homework.)

So, here we are at a crossroads. One that has come way too fast. And one that is so very important. I've researched. I've been praying. I've asked advice. So now I will wait for guidance. And like with all of my parenting, I'll do everything I can and hope for the best...and a lot of grace from above.

Thursday, March 07, 2013

10 Things Thursday

10 people I'd like to have lunch with if humanly possible.

1. Jesus
2. Abraham Lincoln
3. Elizabeth Cady Stanton
4. Mark Twain
5. Mrs. Noah
6. Paul Newman
7. Harriet Tubman
8. any of my ancestors
9. Adele
10. my 20 year old self

Monday, March 04, 2013

Two Score and One

In honor of my 41st birthday, here is a list of 41 of my favorite things (in no particular order).

1. sunshine
2. Julianna's belly laugh
3. books
4. my parents
5. butterflies
6. music
7. Arrty's faithful love
8. blue skies
9. writing
10. Josh's hugs
11. clearance sales
12. chai latte
13. the beach
14. salvation
15. hummingbirds
16. ice water
17. the library
18. Adam's mischievousness
19. studying my genealogy
20. my sister and her sweet family
21. my sister friends
22. musical theater
23. dreams
24. peace
25. summer mornings
26. the zoo
27. coconut cream pie
28. a clean kitchen
29. naps
30. Thanksgiving
31. hope
32. walks
33. my students
34. surprises
35. family time
36. wildflowers
37. memories
38. going to the movies
39. the Bible
40. photographs
41. birthdays